Don't be a Bully!. Step up and do the right thing! Stand up and take a stand against bulliness!

A week after my best friend's stepson was bullied and taunted on the internet through a facebook hate group, the headlines today are about a young, beautiful girl by the name of  Phoebe Prince, who was drove to killing herself because she was taunted and bullied at school.  My heart goes out to her family for the pain they are going through right now and the pain she went through.  Focus on why this happen to this beautiful young woman?  What drove her to do this?  A group of teens from her school traumatize her with their constant taunting and hateful actions.  Wny did they taunt this beautiful young girl?  From the article on Fox News they taunted her because she was beautiful and sensitive.  http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,590111,00.html 

Last week my childhood friend's stepson was taunted online.  A group of us found about it and went to the group and started to point out that this was wrong.  We even tried to get the administer of the group to shut it down but he refused to do so.  The kids on the site commented on the fact that they saw nothing wrong with what they were doing to this young men.  Facebook did take action and removed the hate group and are working with the school district and the local sheriff.  My question is why does today's youth think it is okay to tease and taunt other human beings because they are different.  Do they not realize that those who they tease have feelings too?  Don't they realize that their words and actions cause pain?  Or is it because some of our today's youth do not care what others think or feel?  Do they think only about themselves?  I do have to include a big thank you to the teens who stood up for what was right and recognize that the teasing and taunting was wrong and defended the young man.  They also took a lot of verbal abuse from those who continued the constant bulliness. 

As a parent I know that I need to talk to my children about treating all children the way they want to be treated.  If other children are teasing that child you need to step in and say that is enough because it is wrong.  Don't join in the taunting because everyone else is.  Stand up and do the right thing.  From an early age I have tried to teach my girls that they need to treat everyone nicely.   It is hard to be a parent in today's time but we must stop this type of behavior in our youth before someone else is driven to the point of killing their selves because the pain and heartache of being bullied.  Talk to you children about why it is wrong to bully children and make sure they know they can talk to you if kids in their school are taunting them.  Have an open policy that they can talk to you about anything.  Urge them to stand up for what is right and report those who participating in bullying another child.  Some schools have a no bully tolerance.  I know our school district does and the minute you anonymously make the call the police are alerted and it is taken seriously.  If your school district does not have a policy start one! 

We need to as a community stop this type of behavior.  No Tolerance for bullying!  Stand up and do the right thing! 

Here are some links that help stop bullying!
http://www.tolerance.org/activity/bullying-tips-students

My blog is dedicated to Phoebe Prince and all of the other children who are bullied to the point that they have taken their precious lives because the pain was too much to bare.  May God be with you and your families!  And to those who are being bullied at the moment and don't know where to turn please tell someone so we can stop.  My friend's son who was bullied didn't tell anyone and was going to take the abuse.  His cousin found the hate group on facebook and told her aunt about it.  We found the link to it and had it shut down.  So don't feel alone and feel like you have no one to turn to. Contact the local police in your town if you have to because it is a crime if someone is bullying you online and in person.  Stop the abuse!  If you know someone who is being bullied at school or away from school step up and the do the right thing and report it the authorities.  A lot of time children who are bullied will not speak up for themselves. 

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Beautiful Day on the Eastern Shore so why am I sick today

The sun out and the temps are nice with a little crisp to the air.  Instead I find myself laying on the couch and hopes that I don't get sick again.  I know where I caught it.  My oldest darling daughter was sick Sunday afternoon and yesterday she got sick at school.  So of course I had to catch it and now I find myself laying on the couch fighting the urge to run the restroom again.  Of all kind of illness I think the stomach virus is the worse when it comes to being sick.  Every bone in my body is aching.  My head is spinning.  I feel like I have a fever.  So while I lay on the couch in misery I can dream about being on a sailboat in the middle of Mobile Bay.

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Nice, Big Surprise this morning related to the Twilight Series

This morning I logged onto facebook and discover that Stephenie Meyer's has a new book coming out related to the Twilight Series.  I have to admit that I was hoping that maybe she had finished Midnight Sun but I will settle with the story of Bree Tanner from the Eclipse-The Twilight Saga.  The book is title The Short Second Life of Bree Tanner and it will be released before Eclipse.  Here is the link that tells all.  http://www.stepheniemeyer.com/

I have to admit that I am excited because I have read the four books of the Twilight Saga over and over until the  point that I have certain verse memorized.  I have read Midnight Sun several times from the link Stephenie Meyers gave her fans through her website.  i am ready for a new book and this will help people understand the whole newborn army that Victoria has formed to hunt down Bella.  I think it will be a great addition to the movie coming out and can't wait to read it.  I will also be attending the midnight showing of Eclipse.  Thank you Stephenie Meyer for your wonderful talent of writing! 

So fans please go out and show Stephenie your support by buying this book.  I am so excited.  It is like opening a present on Christmas Day as a child and realizing that you got exactly what you wanted from Santa Claus.  I guess one could say that some of received an early Christmas Gift.  :) 

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Oh Great! I live next door to a racist pig.

I am all for the 1st Amendment: but when it comes to being racist there is no excuse.  Several years ago we had neighbors move in across the street.  At first they seemed okay but over time their true colors started to show.  The first sign was when the male figure at the house would not allow his child play with neighbor's children because the color their skin.  One might wonder how I know this is the reason...coming from the mouth of an innocent child...I was told that he told his child to come in because you are not allowed to play with the likes of them.  Real nice!

After a year a confederate flag started to fly over his house.  Let me state we do have a homeowner's association but they do nothing.  They can make comments about edging our yard when we do not own an edger but they will stand up to a racist pig that flies the confederate flag knowing that we have several African-American families that live in our neighborhood.  After a couple of years the confederate flag came down and was replaced with The Bonnie Blue Flag.  My girls and my neighbor's son wanted me to look up the meaning of this flag and sadly I found this about it:  The flag itself has a history of southern heritage but after knowing the way this man acts I am pretty sure he is flying it because of southern rights.

Hey I am a southerner.  Born and raised in the South.  The one difference is that my parents taught me to accept all people regardless of their differences.  Throughout the years I have tried to teach my children the same and hope they will pass it on to their children.  Life is too short to hate people just because they are different than you.  That is what makes us unique.

The sad things it that this individual calls himself a christian.  My problem with this is that I do not believe God is smiling when he hears such comments made by this person.  God taught us to love one another.  I pray that my neighbor will find the light and change his ways.  It is really sad because he doesn't realize how nice our neighbors are because he will not give them a chance due to the color of their skin.

I must find another job or my head is going to explode.

For two and half years I have been working for a big Retail Chain which I will not name in this blog.  When I first started working for this company life was sweet.  They really did care about their employees.  The year passed and our manager was quickly replaced with a drill sergeant bitch who didn't care about anyone but herself and how she appeared to the big bosses.  Slowly I watched employees that worked very hard and gave their job 300% disappear over crazy issues that were set up by other employees working under her.  The atmosphere at the store became a dog eat dog world.  Basically people were stabbing each other in the back to cover their asses and it didn't matter who they took down when they took such terrible actions toward their fellow employees.

Several months ago I stepped down from my position and went part time in a certain part of the store that requires a lot of hard work.  The main reason why I stepped down was because of the politics that involved my job position and I was tired of the back stabbing, childish games some of my peers were playing in order to keep their freaking jobs.  So when I was given the chance to step down I didn't hesitate.  Except I didn't step down but was actually forced to step down because they would not work with my schedule so I could get my children to school.  Yes, I was forced to step down because according to upper management I was told that I had to have open availability in order to work the job that I had been working at the time for over a year and half.   I know that they were lying through their teeth because the person that they hire in my place can only work nights.  So what is that about open availability?  Yes, another one of their lies.

So I step down from my position and went out to the garden center part time.  Things were going well out there.  Even during the cold months I manage to make it through the days.  I could always find stuff to do and stay busy.  Life was good!  Less stress!  Then this past week my manager over me came up to about going out for a department manager position over another area.  I wasn't sure about it because of the stuff that I had put up with up front and the headaches and stress that was involved.  After talking to several department managers about whether or not I should go out for the position I decided that I would go out for it.  I was also told that my department manager was also going out for it.  See where this is going.

Today we were busy.  People were buying plants left and right.  I don't think I took two minutes to breathe.  My store manager came out to the garden center which she never does.  It turns out that they were having problems getting a hold of me up front because the walkies were acting up.  Several time I made the comment over the walkie that if someone could hear me please answer because I didn't think my walkie was working correctly.  Oh by the way she brought me a pull to assemble together and set up during this busy day.  Needless to say Buddha never made it to the fountain area because a few washers and nuts were missing.  After she realize that I was busy and working at the register the whole time and she couldn't bash me for something I didn't do she sent out my department manager to do the dirty work.

We were busy and as I was checking out people out my dept manager went on to say that I have to tell you something that you don't want to hear.  Just remember that this is coming from upper management and I am having to do this.  Well lets just say this was done during a time when a customer walked in that knew me and heard everything that was going on.  So now I have a witness.  Anyway it turns out that my freaking store management thinks that I sit around all day at the register and do nothing.  Whatever!

Needless to say I am very upset by this comment because I work my butt off in the garden center.  I do not give 100% but 1000%.  If I was standing around and doing what they said I was doing that would be fine to coach me but this is b.s.  And when I asked what it was that they wanted me to do and they reply I told them that I do that.  It is not my fault that the darn wind blows everything back into the area where I work after I leave the premises.  No matter what I do it is never good enough.  Plus what is up with a coaching in front of a customer.

So I am off to find another job.  Wait I have been doing that ever since the witch lady came to our store.

The Hatred must Stop Now

This is in response to a fb group that was started about a Student (my best friend stepson) by some students to harass him because he is unique and different in a good way.

I woke up this morning with all intentions of getting a nap since I stayed up late watching a movie on CMT.  Like every morning I log onto facebook to see what my friends are doing.  It is an early morning ritual.  I came across a new group that several of my friend that are like family where joining and decided to check it out since the group was about my friend's step son.  When I click the link to the group I was appalled by the comments that were being made on this fb group page and that facebook had not deleted it yet.  My dislike for what was going became anger that someone would target a young teenager for being unique and different.  


For those who did this I am really sad because they obviously have no heart.  Have they ever heard of bullying?  Do they not know that there are laws against this type of behavior.  I wish that teenagers would think before they do because their reactions can hurt other people.  As read the comments and the reaction that this young boy was writing back with  my heart went out to him because he was really upset.  At one point he even talked about he didn't even know why he was living.  As I read that my anger started to boil over because no child should be mad to feel that way.  


If only his classmates would take the time to get to know this young man they would realize that he is a very caring and loving person who would not hurt anyone.  That is unique personality is what makes him what he is and that his friendship would be worth more than any amount of money in the world.  Sadly this age is difficult because those who do the hateful acts do not realize the consequences that they could be causing.  


For the young population and my children please think before you tease someone because those comments will hurt the person even though they hide the heart ache you cause them.  Just because someone is different doesn't mean that someone should treat them like XXXX.  Uniqueness is what makes one an individual.  

A New Day, A New Me

This morning I wrote a blog entry out of anger and hurt but decided not to post it because it is was more of a way to get my feelings out for myself but not for others to see.  In the process I did come up with this.

Today is a new day and the start of a new me.  No one is going to tell me what to do unless I want to do it.  I am myself and I must stand up for myself.  I know what I need and only I can provide those needs.  Money will not provide those things. Money is a materialistic item.  I need to start with the soul, heart, and the mind and let what is meant to be occur naturally.

The Release of New Moon at Midnight is like waiting for Santa Claus on Christmas Eve.

I feel like a child on Christmas morning waiting to see what Santa Claus has brought me.  New Moon will be released on DVD at 12:01am this morning and I can't wait to get my hands on it.  Yes, I am what they call a Twi-Mom.  What is the definition of a Twi-Mom?  A mom who is addicted to Stephenie Meyers Twilight Saga Books.

I came across the books by accident one day while I was working and decided if everyone else was reading the book that maybe I should buy a copy of Twilight.  My oldest daughter was ten at the time.  I asked her if she had heard of the book called Twilight.  She quickly acknowledge that she had heard of the book and her friends that had read the Twilight said it was great.  Unfortunately her school librarian would not let her check the book out because she claim it was not on her reading level.  I later found out that the book was on her reading level and proceeded to let her read the book.  It was December and Christmas was around the corner.  I was very busy at work since I work retail and was trying to find a way to unwind without doing something that would be damaging to my health.  I soon found myself wrapped up in Stephenie Meyer's Vampire World that I could not put the book down.  As Edward said Bella was his type of drug in Twilight...Stephenie Meyer's style of writing was my personal drug for me.  A healthy drug that would not hurt my body.

After I finished reading Twilight I went on to read the other three book and have read them over and over.  I love the movies and have seen both movies in the theaters.  When New Moon came out I had my best friend meet me at work around 11pm and we went to the Midnight Showing for her 40th birthday!  My oldest daughter tag along with us even though she had school the next morning.  It was worth staying up all night to watch New Moon and I will do the same when Eclipse is released.  The movies keep getting better and better!

So you can only imagine my excitement over the New Moon DVD being released on the 20th of March at Midnight.  Will I be one of the nuts up there at Walmart purchasing the DVD?  Probably not since Target has the DVD with the 3 Disc that I want.  Plus I get 10% off of it!  Now if June 30th will come!  I want to see Eclipse!

Busy mornings=Busy Days

I don't think I have stopped since early this morning and my head is still spinning in full disarray of everything that is going on.  First I didn't want to get up this morning.  I really need that extra hour of sleep that the daylight saving time took away.  Then it was off to get the kids ready for school.  Nothing like running around the house looking for school uniforms under the mountain of clothes that need to find a home sometime this week.  Maybe I will get to that task this weekend.  David left this morning to head to the hospital for his annual nuclear stress test.  Hope everything turns out okay because he has been under a lot of stress lately.  I know he doesn't think I care but I do.  

Laura and Jeanne are at school and I went by FBC to see if maybe they have a pair of crutches that will fit Gwendolyn.  I grew up at FBC and my parents are still members.  The girls have been going to their Wednesday night program since our church doesn't have a good youth program.  Today I met Rev. Henry for the first time and all I can say is that he made a good lasting impression on me.  Actually the whole church staff will always have a place in my heart.  Even though they didn't have pediatric crutches they spent over an hour calling around till we located a pair.  In the event if we had not found a pair Rev. Henry was going to fix the pair that I had to fit Gwendolyn.  Now this is dedication in God's Work.  When I think I am going losing my faith in mankind someone manages to bring back that faith and makes my faith in God even stronger.  

We manage to make it to the school by 9:10 and I walked her to class.  She insisted on going to school even though I have to pick her up at 12:30 because I have no one to pick her up from school this afternoon in the car line.  There is no way I am going to let her ride the bus home while on crutches.  She seem to do really well on the crutches and I think she is going to have a good day.  I also met an angel named Bailey today.  She is one of the special needs children at the school and her smile melt my heart today.  

It looks like we are going to participate in the Spring Fever Chase this weekend.  Gwendolyn wanted to race but there was no way that she could with her sprain ankle.  Thanks to FBC I have acquire a wheel chair for the race and will be pushing Gwendi.  I imagine it will be not only an interesting day but we will have a great time!  Pictures later of course!  

As the clock ticks on I need to think about getting dressed for work.  After today I am off for four whole days.  I have not been off for a full weekend since October.  I can't wait for this short vacation.  I imagine that I will probably be in a lot of trouble when I arrive at work because I had to call out yesterday due to being at the hospital with my 8 year old daughter who sprain her foot.  My store is not great about understanding that you have children and sometimes you have to be out.  Part of the reason I am having to check Gwendi out of school early is so I can go into work this afternoon and work 4 1/2 hours.  I dare them to write me up for yesterday because not only am I going to refuse to sign the papers I am also going to leave a nice little message on it about how ridiculous it is that you expect me to be at work while I am at the hospital with my 8 year old daughter  having her injured ankle x-rayed because we think it is broke.  

I think it is time to stop for a second and smell the flowers!

A Bowl of Cherries vs the Bowl of Sour Grapes

To write is a gift.  Some say it does the heart good too!

I never gave it much thought about how my life would turn out when I was little girl.  I always dreamed of living the perfect fairy tale life. .  Skip the drama and heartache and move on to the part where you live happily ever after.  As I got older I realize that fairy tales where just stories.  That life was complicated.  Maybe complicated is not the exact word.  Drama might explain it better.  

As you get older you realize that life is not a bowl of cherries.  It is a bowl of sour grapes that explode in your face when you least expect it.  I guess you could say it is like a time bomb waiting to go off any minute when the button is pushed down.  Tick Tock, Tick Tock!  Boom!  The sour grapes explode all over your face. It sticks to you very existence of life.  

So why isn't life a bowl of cherries!  Did we choose this path to follow?  Could we have changed the outcome of our lives?  In some cases people do choose the path which they follow while others end up on that path because of complications in their lives.  Complications that they wished they could go back and changed and pick the right path.  Others end on that path because of situations that were out of their control.  Do you really believe that someone would choose a between a bowl of cherries and a bowl of sour grapes?  Think about it.  A bowl of cherries taste a lot better than a bowl of sour grapes.